Why Adoption?

Why Are You Adopting?

That’s the question we have already heard more than a few times from others. Some people ask it in a more polite manner than others. It’s a fair question. After all, we do already have two biological children. In many ways we are living the American dream with two kids and a house in the suburbs. Why go through the trouble and risk of adopting a child?

 Personal Peace and Affluence

Before I answer the question, let me ask the reader a question. What are you living for? I think that most of America is living for what Francis Schaeffer called the impoverished values of personal peace and affluence. In other words, most people make choices on what will make them happiest. Think about how you picked your last job. It’s probably based on a combination of what you like to do and what pays well. When you think about the decision to adopt using this criteria it makes no sense. Adoption is expensive and risky. There’s no guarantee the child will be what we expect. So if you look at the choice in this light, you will never understand it.

Pure and Undefiled Religion

What Cindy and I are living for is for a purpose much greater than personal peace and affluence. It’s a purpose that will consume us for the rest of our lives and hopefully for our children’s lives. This purpose is to live for the glory of the Lord Jesus Christ. And sometimes this purpose does not align itself with our personal peace and affluence. In our case, this is one of those times. For us, adoption is a wonderful opportunity to demonstrate God’s love to someone who needs it. The book of James in the Bible tells us that religion that is “pure and undefiled” is to care for orphans and widows. We want to adopt because God has been such a blessing to us that we want to bless others.

A final thought

One last thought before you go. In a way, we are maximizing our happiness by adopting. God has given us a great desire to expand our family through the journey of adoption. It is not as much a burden to bear for us as an exciting journey to begin. We are thrilled that we have been blessed with the opportunity to adopt a child. What I have learned is that the more you live for yourself, the less satisfiying life becomes. I hope that for anyone reading this that is living without a higher purpose, that you would think again about what you are living for. You only have one life and the only way to spend it is in the service of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Thanks for reading.

  1. sofia says:

    I have to say that i agree with you,. Adoption is a way of giving hope and a better life to those who come into this world under difficult and in some cases dramatic situations. Adopting can change a child’s life-that is why people should consider this option. What better than giving the love and support of a parent to children which unfortunately had this experience taken away from them? The greatest feeling in life is love, how are those kids supposed to grow up to love other’s when they have never had someone to love them?

  2. Melissa Steele says:

    This is the first time I have read this. It is so well said and sincerely put. God Bless you as you bless others!

  3. Future Mama says:

    Love the way you wrote this…captures a lot of what my husband and I believe just perfectly!

  4. D says:

    Thank you for your blog and congratulations on your happy family. I came across your blog as my husband and I start our adoption research. (We’re also from Virginia.) If you’re comfortable, would you mind emailing us to let us know if you recommend FEC? Thank you.

Say Hello! Leave a comment. . .

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s