Lessons learned since becoming a mama

Posted: May 7, 2012 in God

A real family photo, with one child not interested in looking at the camera

With Mother’s Day approaching in a few days, I thought I would share a few lessons I have learned (and am still learning) since becoming a mother. Each day seems to offer a new challenge. Being a mama is the most demanding, yet also the most rewarding job I have ever had.

Saying sorry is okay. I make mistakes (often). I have learned to say sorry and ask our kids’ forgiveness. I require them to apologize to one another, and I’ve learned it is just as important for me to be willing to say I’m sorry, too.

Figure out your top priorities and make sure your schedule reflects those priorities. As a mom, my first priority is my family. I am pulled in many different directions, though. There are so many great activities, programs and ministries – I would love to do it all. But I am the one left feeling rundown and tired and defeated because I cannot get everything done. I started saying “no” more frequently during the last year and it’s been good for my husband, my children and for me.

What worked with one child may not work with your next child. All of my kids are different. Just when I think I figured out this motherhood thing, another challenge presents itself and I realize I have much more to learn. Before I had children, I said I would do things a certain way. Guess what? That changed as soon as our first child was born. And it keeps changing as we get to know our children, and as they grow.

Love is an amazing thing. I never could have imagined how much adoption would change my life. I read this adoption creed recently and it is a reflection of how I feel about my sons from Taiwan. The moment I saw them at the orphanage, I knew God had chosen them for our family. I feel so blessed to be their mama.

“Not flesh of my flesh nor bone of my bone
but still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
you didn’t grow under my heart but in it.”

My children are truly a blessing from God. I love each one of them and I am so grateful God has entrusted my husband and me to raise them.

Motherhood is quite a journey. I am trying to give myself grace when I make mistakes and extend grace to my children as they learn and grow. I still have much to learn as a mama…not least of which is how to keep a clean house and stay on top of the laundry.

  1. Erin says:

    …it is all so, so true! Know that you are not alone out there. We are in the same boat. I too fret over the household, laundry and activities. I try my best to let go of the chores but how quickly they catch up with us! Anyway, my kids are my priority and spending as much time as I possibly can with them. I can’t believe my oldest has only been home one & half years and speaks better than most who were born here. Thank you again for your posts and valuable information! You write so eloquently and hit the nail on the head with your latest!

  2. Nadine says:

    Amen! What a great post.

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